Overcoming the loss. Part 1. Ksenia Teresa Tarnavska, analytically oriented psychologist

To overcome the loss: do not create illusions. To be there in a state of shock. Just be there.

Ksenia Teresa Tarnavska, analytically oriented psychologist, candidate for psychotherapist, co-author of the project “Tree of My Life”

– What is loss? What do we mean by the word “loss”: the loss of a normal life, home, family, friends…

– What to do when you lose a loved one? How to get over it?

– What does it mean: “to be there”, or is it necessary to ‘be there’?

– Adapting and learning to live

– How to move and what can help?

– Who is a neighbor in a situation of loss?

Grief is divided into 2 stages: shock and acute grief.

In the shock stage, we experience the first stage of grief: denial.

At first, a person cannot realize the loss of someone close to them, for example. Along with the loss of a person, the structure of life is destroyed.

The shock stage can last about 40 days.

Then acute grieving begins: this is the stage of anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

What does the shock stage mean and what does it look like?

Is it worth helping, and what is the help?

– Listening

– Being

– “…under the cross stood the disciple and the Mother…” – stood: not consoling, not running… Mary and the disciple are simply with Jesus

– We can offer to pray together, but we should let the person get angry if he or she needs it

– If a person shows minimal activity: they can make a bed, make tea – it shows that life goes on

– The experience of grief in times of war is special